The Power of Clarity

Entrepreneurial Quote of the Day:

“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do.  So throw off the bowlines.  Sail away from the safe harbor.  Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore.  Dream.  Discover.” ~ Mark Twain

Hello Fabulous Women!

I know it sounds trite but I’m saying it anyway – I cannot believe this year is almost over!  In less than two weeks it will be 2010. 

In the new year to come, many things will happen, including, for me, my 25th college reunion at Harvard.  This has me reflecting and wondering if my life has turned out anything like what I thought it would be, way back then when I was graduating from college.

When I asked myself that, the thing that struck me was that, at that age, I never really did think this far ahead.  I didn’t even think five years ahead.  Other than knowing that I wanted to be happily married with children – which is exactly what happened – I realize that I had no other clear plans or goals for my life this far out in the future.

I invite each of you look back over the past 25 years or so as well, and ask yourself the same questions.  What, if anything, were you absolutely clear that you wanted to have or do in your life?  And what happened?

I would be willing to bet that those things you were clear that you wanted are the things that happened.

Some of you were sure from an early age that you wanted to follow a particular career, and that is most likely exactly how it went.  I had no such clarity about my work life, and so I have been on a (mostly) delightful journey in that realm, from working with inner city adolescents to owning and driving for a cab company on Maui, to becoming a massage therapist, to being director of a wellness center, to sales, to being a life and business coach.  About the only thing I was always clear about in my work life was that I wanted to help people and make a difference, and so that has been the common thread.

My point – and I do have one! – is that clarity, our own internal clarity, is what truly determines our lives. 

So if there is an area in your life or my life where things aren’t going our way, consider that what’s missing is clarity about what we truly want.  Consider that those areas are the areas where we keep things a bit vague, where we avoid really knowing what’s happening, and most importantly, where we have never clearly defined for ourselves what we want in that area. 

If there is an area in your life that is not working out as well as you’d like, I’d be willing to bet that that is an area where you have settled for just knowing what you don’t want, but have never gotten crystal clear about what you do want.  Believe me, there’s a difference.  If there is one thing I have learned in this life, it’s that knowing what you don’t want will never get you what you want. 

I’m not talking about small things here, I’m truly talking about the very fabric and nature of our lives and how we create them.  We all have things we’d like to change about our lives, and we tend to focus on taking action as the way to make changes.  What I’m saying is that while action is critical, it is clarity, or lack of it, that determines those actions, and ultimately determines the course and the experience of our lives.

So here is my challenge for the coming year – the coming years! – for all of us.  Choose an area of your life that is not going the way you want.  Choose it, and then create it.  Sit yourself down and write what you want, what matters to you, what you want to do, what you want to be feeling, how you want to be in that area.  Talk to the people in your life about it, tell them what you want, share how you feel about it and listen to their experiences and connect with them on a new level.  Declare that this area, whether it is relationships or work life or family or money or creative expression or anything else you want to change, is now your focus and you are taking it on. 

Create clarity, and more clarity, and more clarity, in that area, and see what opportunities for action and movement and passion and achievement in that area start to open up for you.

Clarity is where the fun happens, it’s where life is juicy and challenging and fulfilling.  Lack of clarity is the grind, it’s where life is daunting and overwhelming and helpless and resigned. 

I know which I want more of in my life.  How about you?

–Ann

On Track and On Purpose, Business Coaching for Women Entrepreneurs, Business Woman Coach

Amazing Opportunity To Create Success For Yourself And Others!

Entrepreneurial Quote of the Day:

“The minute you alter your perception of yourself and your future, both you and your future begin to change.” ~Marilee Zdenek 

Hello Fabulous Women!

I want to let you know about an amazing new opportunity for anyone who has a passion for helping people succeed.  It’s called TotalCoach, and I have never seen anything like it, but you cannot wait: I was just informed this fr-ee offer is live now and may not last more than a few days.

So what about you — do you have a passion for helping other people succeed? 

Would you like to quickly turn that passion into a profitable coaching business? ($100,000/year has happened for complete beginners!)

It’s never been easier, here’s why:

My friend, #1 best-selling author Mike Litman, has transformed his passion for helping others into an $8 million business. His success is an inspiration, and is one reason I have been a fan of his and read his newsletter for years. It took him 7 years of struggle before he “cracked the code.” Lucky for you, you don’t have to struggle like this:

He’s going to break it down, step-by-step and show you exactly how he did it from start to finish, and how you can too. 

A lot of people give away their “secrets.” But Mike is different: He is famous for his down-to-earth, supportive, no-frills guidance… and that’s why his students have made over $30,000,000 in combined profit (he’s got some big names on that list!)

And he wants to give you the entire blueprint to try for free.

It gets better: His blueprint includes EVERYTHING (and I mean everything) you need to get started: a custom website, hosting, training, blog, autoresponder, support, traffic tools… and much more… all part of this fr-ee offer! 

Trust me on this. You’ll kick yourself if you miss this chance:

http://totalcoach.com/blueprint/?axa=2627

To your success,

–Ann

P.S. When you follow that link, you will read about some incredible success stories from people like you. Everyday people who have quit their jobs, who are making more than $8,000 a month, and who have finally found the personal fulfillment they’ve always dreamed of. One guy’s first sale was $4,200! A complete beginner!

It’s your turn:

http://totalcoach.com/blueprint/?axa=2627

On Track and On Purpose Coaching, Business Coaching for Women Entrepreneurs, Business Woman Coach

The Big Question

Entrepreneurial Quote of the Day:

 “The unexamined life is not worth living.” ~Socrates

Hello Fabulous Women!

What would you say if someone walked up to you in the street – with a microphone no less — and asked you, “What’s your purpose in life?”?

Please watch this video about someone who did just that – I found it fascinating. What Is Your Purpose In Life?   

Some people simply said they didn’t know, while others pushed themselves and came up with answers, sometimes surprising themselves. I found myself wondering how they spent the rest of the day, after being asked that question. How did that impact them?

As you must know by now, helping people to discover and fulfill their purpose in life is my passion and an integral part of my life and business coaching. So anything that furthers that and has people pondering why they are here, and better yet, has them declare a purpose, is music to my ears.

Please take a few minutes to watch and see what opens up for you as you ponder your own answer. What Is Your Purpose In Life?

 Want to take this a step further? As you gather with your friends and family this holiday, ask them what they think their purpose is in life, and see what they say. Who knows what amazing conversations you may have!

Enjoy, and have a wonderful Thanksgiving!

Your coach,

–Ann

P.S. For those of you outside the US who aren’t celebrating Thanksgiving this week, go ahead and ask your friends and family anyway – why not? Have a great week, and don’t be surprised if you don’t hear back from friends or business colleagues in the US in a timely manner this week. It’s a real busy one, plus we get kind of sleepy after all the turkey and mashed potatoes! Blessings!

On Track and On Purpose Coaching, Business Coaching for Women Entrepreneurs, Business Woman Coach

And The Winner Is…

 

Entrepreneurial Quote of the Day:

“Love is the time and space where ‘I’ give myself the right to be extraordinary.” ~Julia Kristeva

Hello Fabulous Women!

Welcome to the You Totally Rock! Awards.  (Also known as the Most Long Overdue Awards.)

So put on your virtual tiara and have a seat.  It’s finally time…

“And the Winner is…”

A hush falls over the crowd.

Presenter Ann Hession, looking ravishing in her virtual designer gown, opens the envelope and looks inside.

She grins.

“And the winner is …. YOU!”

The audience erupts, everyone eager to show you how much they agree, you are the winner, because you, my friend and fellow fabulous woman, you TOTALLY ROCK!

And it’s about time you get acknowledged for it!

Here’s what your reviews say:

You rock because you listen.  You really listen.

You rock because you take the extra time to do it right, whether anyone notices or not.

You rock because you make the people in your life smile when they think of you.

You rock because you do the right thing even when others don’t, and that makes a difference.

You rock because you have the courage to recreate yourself, to push yourself to grow and develop every day. Or at least most days!

You rock because you won’t settle for second best for the people you love. 

You rock because you are honest, caring and kind, even when things aren’t going your way, and that is a huge gift to everyone who knows you.

You rock because you take a stand for people, even when they won’t for themselves.

You rock because, when you are with them, people know they matter.

You rock because you are YOU, the best darn you the world has ever seen, precious, irreplaceable, and long overdue for this acknowledgement.

So get up on that stage, girlfriend, and accept this YOU TOTALLY ROCK! Award.  Yes, that’s right, you with the virtual tiara on your head, walk up there now and take it, it’s yours.

Take it in.  As a friend of mine says, “Let the love in, and let the love out.”  You deserve this award, and so much more.

Have a fabulous, rocking good day, and don’t forget to pass it on and let the precious people in your life know that they totally rock, too.  Let the love in, let the love out.  What a great way to start your weekend!

Thanks, you’ve been great! (Exit music plays…)

–Ann

On Track and On Purpose Coaching, Business Coaching for Women Entrepreneurs, Business Woman Coach

The Power of Purpose

Entrepreneurial Quotes of the Day:

“Outstanding people have one thing in common: an absolute sense of mission.” ~Zig Ziglar

“What mankind wants is not talent; it is purpose.” ~Edward G. Bulwer-Lytton 

Hello Fabulous Women!

I am passionate and committed about the value and power of coaching, and here’s why.

One of the most common things I hear from the women who contact me about my business coaching services is that they are suffering from a lack of clarity.  And I do mean suffering – I can hear it in their voices. 

They say, “I just wish I knew what I really wanted.” 

And to make matters worse, they are usually blaming themselves for not knowing what they want – there’s this feeling that they are supposed to know what they want, and so they think there must be something wrong with them if they don’t.  (There isn’t!)

Interestingly, sometimes even those women who tell me they do know what they want are not truly any more clear.  I know that because, when I probe a bit further with them, they often can’t give me any clear details about what they want.  They say that they want more money, more success, less stress, but they can’t create a clear picture of what that would look like or what it means to them.

I strongly believe that this lack of clarity is the biggest obstacle in most people’s lives, including their business lives.  It’s the “something missing” that would make all the difference in the world if it were present.

I also believe that what creates clarity, and the only thing that creates clarity on a lasting basis, is Purpose.  Having a strong sense of personal purpose, knowing not only what you want but why you want it, feeling connected to what matters to you the most in life – that creates a clarity and power that can withstand anything that life throws at you.

Sometimes when I talk about this with prospective clients, it resonates with them immediately.  They seem to recognize that what I’m talking about is truly what has been missing for them.  Others, frankly, shy away from the idea of having a personal sense of purpose.  They say that there must be some other, better, easier way to get clear and know what they really want.

Maybe they are right, but if so, I have yet to see the evidence of it.  Everything I have experienced as a coach and in my life tells me that there is nothing more essential and foundational to having a fulfilling and successful life than having a strong sense of purpose.  It’s a declaration to yourself and to the world of why you are here on this planet. 

That is why my coaching – yes, my business coaching – involves helping each and every client create and declare a powerful and succinct personal statement of purpose.  And I promise you this: any business you create or career you pursue that is created out of that sense of personal purpose will be a business or career that will give you not only success but also joy and fulfillment in your life. 

I created my own statement of purpose nearly three years ago.  My purpose in life is to inspire and empower people to discover and fulfill their purpose in life, with passion, ease and joy! 

Now let me tell you something else:  I created that statement of purpose approximately 30 seconds before I declared that I was a coach.  After thinking about being a coach for years, that clarity of purpose is what gave me the power to declare it and make it so. 

And that clarity of purpose is the same reason why I had my first three coaching clients in less than a month after that declaration.  Nothing else changed.  I didn’t suddenly have more training or preparation, I didn’t know anything more than before.  The only difference was, I created and declared my purpose, and that transformed me from someone who was stuck thinking about something – for years – into someone who was unstoppable in making it happen.

And here’s something else for you to know.  Less than nine months later, if you typed “women’s business coach” into Google, you would have found me on the first page, at the #9 spot.  Not too shabby!  Today, by the way, I’m at #1 on Google for those keywords, and have been for over a year.  That’s the Power of Purpose, in life and in business.

So my question for each of you today is, What Is Your Purpose?  Why are you here?  No one else in the world has the right to declare an answer to that question except you.  How will you answer it?

I know that some of you have an answer to that question, because I was working with you when you created it!  Others may have a partial answer, and some may feel that they have no idea at all. 

If you, like many women I talk to, are feeling that painful lack of clarity, I hope that this has helped you to see what is missing, and to know that do you have it in your power to create it for yourself. 

If I can do it, so can you.  You can create it for yourself, but it doesn’t have to be by yourself – I know I couldn’t have created my purpose on my own.  It took someone really pushing me and coaching me, believe me!  That’s what coaching provides, and that is literally what I am here on this planet to do.  For you.

If you are feeling that “something’s missing,” then take on answering this question, “What Is My Purpose?”  Whether you do it through coaching or not, consider that your life does depend on it.  Not your existence – after all, many people exist for many years without ever knowing their purpose.  Having a life is much more than having an existence

And if you have ever thought about coaching but never taken action, make today the day.  Take advantage of my free 45 minute coaching call.  When you really think about it, isn’t it a bit absurd to spend a lifetime here on this earth and never declare for yourself why?

Have a fabulous, purposeful day,

–Ann

On Track and On Purpose, Business Coaching for Women Entrepreneurs, Business Woman Coach

Help for That Stiff Neck and Those Aching Shoulders

Entrepreneurial Quote of the Day:

“There are two ways of meeting difficulties: you alter the difficulties, or you alter yourself to deal with them.” ~ Phyllis Battome

Hello Fabulous Women!

Spending hours in front of the computer and typing and clicking until your neck hurts, your shoulders ache and your fingers cramp up can be a reality of working in today’s world.  I want to share a couple of great stretches/exercises with you all, to help relieve strain and pain in your neck and shoulders and upper back. 

I have chronic pain in my neck and shoulders, largely as a result of having been a massage therapist myself for many years, and now exacerbated by all the time I spend on the computer.  I’m afraid that I have quite a bit of repetitive strain injury, primarily on the right side, but the left is not so great either!

Hopefully none of you has quite the level of discomfort that I do, but I expect it’s a pretty safe bet that a fair number of you have at least some pain and stiffness on a regular basis. 

There are two stretches/exercise that I highly recommend.  Now, before you ask yourself why I’m still in pain when I have these two great techniques, let me just confess a little something.  I know these two stretches work extremely well, but I can’t even remember the last time I did them. 

Yes, that’s right, another sterling example of the fact that knowing what to do and actually doing it are not the same thing. 

Today I got straight with myself about the fact that I am not taking care of myself anyway near the way I know how to, and committed to a fresh new start with these poor, much abused neck and shoulders of mine.  How about you?  Ready to make a change and provide your body with some relief?

Here are the two most effective stretches I have yet to come across:

The Eagle – Amplified:

The first is a modified version of a yoga pose usually known as the Eagle.  Standing up, bend your elbows and hold your hands in front of your face, palms facing each other, fingers pointing up.  Keeping your fingers pointing up, cross your left elbow over your right elbow.  As best you can, bring your right hand toward your body, and wrap it around your left forearm, laying your right palm on the inside of your left wrist or even partway up onto your left palm, as far as you can.  Here is a picture:

eaglearmsdesk

Some of you will be able to do this with some ease, others may only be able to do a small part to start – don’t worry, whatever you can do will work to begin stretching you to the next level.

Once you have gotten into the position as best you can, you can vastly increase the effectiveness of this stretch by moving around in the following ways while still holding the pose:

First, raise your hands and arms slowly toward the ceiling, keeping the post intact.  Hold for a few seconds and then return to the original position.

Second, unbend your elbows slightly, pushing your hands out away from your body, still held together in pose.  Return to original position.

Third, push elbows slowly out away from your body, pulling hands toward your face, while at the same time bending slowly forward from the waist.  You should feel a great stretch along the sides of your body from your lower spine right up to your shoulders. Return.

Fourth, swing your arms, in position, toward the right, twisting slowly at the waist, up the spine and through the shoulders.  Do the same to the left. Return.

When you are done, repeat the whole sequence beginning with getting into the pose with your right elbow crossing over on top of your left one.  Once you have done this a few times and know what you are doing, you can go through the whole sequence, once on each side, in only 2-3 minutes.

The Wall Waist Squeeze

This exercise is the best thing I know for opening up the front of your shoulders and chest, counteracting all the time we spend hunched forward.  A lot of pain and tension that you feel in the back of your shoulders is actually caused by tightness in the muscles in the front, and a particular muscle (pectoralis minor) that connects the front and back of your shoulders.

It’s very simple:

Stand with your back against a wall, with your head, shoulders and buttocks all touching the wall.  Raise your arms straight out to your sides and bend your elbows so your hands are pointing up, and press your whole arms against the wall, so that your shoulders, elbows and the back of your hands are all touching the wall.

Now, keeping your head, shoulders, arms, hands and buttocks all in continuous contact with the wall, slowly squeeze your elbows down toward your waist.  *Be sure to keep everything still touching the wall – if you are not paying attention, some parts of your body will come forward and you will lose the effectiveness of this exercise.*

Squeeze your elbows down to your waist as far as you can while still maintaining full contact with the wall, then return to the starting position. Repeat at least ten times, working up to doing fifty squeezes in a row.

Well, I had to do all of those several times to make sure I was describing them all correctly, and I do feel much better!  So will you – give them a try!  The more often you do them, the better you will feel.  I have committed to doing them at least once a day before I start work, and I have a reminder set on my computer so I won’t forget – how about you?

–Ann

On Track and On Purpose, Business Coaching for Women Entrepreneurs, Business Woman Coach

That Name Tag Guy…

Entrepreneurial Quote of the Day:

“How are you branding your honesty? It’s so rare that it’s become remarkable. Make it what you’re known for. Lead with honesty.” ~Scott Ginsberg, Name Tag Scott

Hello Fabulous Women!

I want to make you aware of Scott Ginsberg, aka Name Tag Scott.  Why is he called that?  Well, Scott is the only person in the world who wears a name tag 24/7.  And no, he’s not crazy, he’s on a mission to help people and companies all over the world to “become more approachable, unforgettable and make a name for yourself.”  And he is very very good at it.

Both for myself and as a women’s business coach, I love to read Scott’s advice, and his website is full of articles that are pure gold.  He is also the author of several books, including “HELLO, My Name Is Scott,” “The Power of Approachability,” “How To Be That Guy,” and “Make A Name For Yourself.”

Scott has so many articles I may never read them all, but each and every one I’ve read is full of practical, insightful, straight to the point information you can use, right now, today, to make yourself and your business unforgettable, appealing and unique. 

Here’s a great quote from one of my favorite articles of his:

“The secret is: Don’t be different; be unique. ‘Different’ is something you do intentionally; unique is something you are inherently.  Being ‘different’ is for amateurs.  Extract and magnify your uniqueness.”

Ain’t it the truth!  All the successes in my business have been from me being my own unique self, and I’ve never had any great result from simply trying to be different.  In fact, trying to be different for the sake of being different usually creates rather than solves problems.  Like he said, for amateurs!

Here’s a link to that particular article in its entirety:

11 Brand-Building Lessons Learned From Wearing a Name Tag 24/7 For 3,000 Days

I highly recommend that you go to Scott’s website and pick a few of his articles to read and use in your business today.  Pick a problem you have been struggling with – a client you want to work with, an associate you have had trouble with, an area where communication has been a problem, you name it, and I guarantee that you will find a new idea, a solution, a new way to look at and approach your problem from one of Scott’s articles.  Most likely you’ll find several and wonder why you didn’t think of at least one of them yourself, when he came up with so many!  Yes, he really is that good, and not only that, he’s funny and extremely readable as well. 

And if you were wondering how someone could actually wear a name tag 24/7, check out this interview of Scott on 20/20, and you’ll see for yourself what he means.

The Name Tag Guy on 20/20

Have a fabulous day!

–Ann

On Track and On Purpose, Business Coaching for Women Entrepreneurs, Business Woman Coach