Category Archives: Peace of mind

Getting Back On Track

Entrepreneurial Quote of the Day:

“I have to remember to tell the negative committee that meets in my head to sit down and shut up.” ~Kathy Kendall

Hello Fabulous Women!

I don’t know about the rest of you, but I am definitely in the middle of my usual end of August, slightly out of control, what am I supposed to be doing now, discombobulated, how can I get back on track syndrome.

Just got back from two weeks of (mostly) vacation, way too many emails to go through, kids go back to school next week (!), house looks like a disaster, realized I forgot to pay the sewer bill back in July, haven’t blogged in weeks, how on earth can there possibly be this much laundry to do – ladies, please tell me I am not alone!  Is this really what being a woman entrepreneur looks like?  Apparently, yes, it is.

Okay, then, this is for all of us.  Let’s take a deep breath and we’ll get through this together.  Ready?

The first step is to step back and get some perspective, take a look at the big picture.  The laundry may be screaming at you, but that doesn’t necessarily mean it’s the most important thing to focus on.

Here’s what I’m doing.  To re-establish some perspective and sanity, stop and ask yourself what you want your life/home/business to look like by the end of September.  Not today, not in six months, just in a little over a month.  Be specific, what do you want to have completed, have in process, and so forth.  Here are some examples from me:

By the end of September I want to:

  • Have three new ads in place on appropriate websites advertising my business coaching services
  • Have my two daughters doing their own laundry (!)
  • Have painted my bathroom
  • Have blogged consistently 1-2 times per week
  • Have two new coaching clients
  • Have my bedroom reorganized and decluttered

There are a few more individual items, but those are the main goals. 

Now here’s something interesting.  As soon as I stopped and looked out into the future just a few weeks, and then started writing down some very specific goals, I immediately stopped feeling overwhelmed and started feeling energized and even excited to take on some of those goals.  (That bathroom is really calling to me because I finally picked a color – can’t wait to do it!)

I no longer feel a crazy pressure to get it all done right now, which is impossible and self-defeating, and instead I feel confident that I can get all of that done – and then some – over the next few weeks and I’m ready to get back on track and in action.

So if you are feeling even a little bit the way I was, my challenge and suggestion to you for today is to do the same thing – stop and write down what you want to have accomplished by the end of September, and then get in action. 

On September 30, my life is going to have less laundry in it and more coaching clients.  Not to mention a beautiful teal paint above my black and white bathroom tiles.

And you? What’s your life going to look like on September 30th

Have a fabulous day!

–Ann

On Track and On Purpose Coaching, Business Coaching for Women Entrepreneurs, Business Woman Coach

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One of the Best Decisions I Ever Made

Entrepreneurial Quote of the Day:

“The most important single ingredient in the formula of success is knowing how to get along with people.” — Theodore Roosevelt

 

Hello Fabulous Women!

Quite a few years ago, sometime in the late nineties, I made a decision.  Looking back on nearly ten years of living by this decision, I have to say that it is unquestionably one of the smartest and sanest things I have ever done, and it will continue to impact me positively for the rest of my life.

It was a very simple decision, and I offer it to each of you now, and invite you to make the same decision for yourself, if you wish.

This is it: I decided that, from that day forward, for the rest of my life, I would never take it personally when someone didn’t return my phone call. 

That’s it.

That’s all.  From then until the day I die, absolutely everyone has been given, in advance, a full and inexhaustible pardon.  Doesn’t matter if it’s business, friend or family.  It’s a full pardon for everybody.

Do you have any idea how much angst, hurt feelings, irritation, judgementalness, frustration, uncertainty, isolation, anger etc., I have been saved over the past ten years?  And therefore how much clarity, peace of mind, enjoyment, connection, understanding, acceptance and happiness I have been able to experience instead?

How does this work, you may wonder.  What do I do when someone doesn’t call me back?  (FYI, sometime along the way I had to expand this to include emails.)

First, here’s what I don’t do:  I don’t make up stories about why they didn’t call or write back, thinking I don’t matter to them, telling myself they are selfish and inconsiderate, wondering if they are mad at me, wondering if they’ll be mad if I call or email again, making excuses for them – all that craziness, which I fully admit, I certainly used to do.

What do I do?  It’s very simple, I just call them again. 

Really, that’s it.  That’s all that needs to happen, when you think about it and take away all the drama, so that’s what I do.  One way or another, we get through to each other, which was the whole point of calling in the first place.

What I have found is that 99% of the time, there was absolutely nothing going on other than the other person was just as busy as I am and was grateful to me for being persistent.

On the extremely rare occasions when there was “something going on” — something the other person was upset or disturbed about — my willingness to just keep trying to connect without adding any additional drama or interpretation of my own has been even more important, both in business and in my personal life.

You may think this sounds too simple to have a big impact, or maybe too hard to actually live by.  If you are someone for whom non-returned phone calls are a pet peeve, you may think this sounds impossible, but for you, sweetheart, this one could save your life if you really take it on. 

So go ahead, create your own full pardon in perpetuity – or just for a few months if you aren’t sure and you just want to try it out.  I expect that if you do, you’ll end up signing on for life as I have, and never look back.  There’s something about granting absolutely everyone a full pardon for life that makes you realize you are a lot bigger than you think. 

And that’s a good experience for all of us.

–Ann

On Track and On Purpose, Business Coaching for Women Entrepreneurs, Business Woman Coach