Category Archives: Purpose

The Power of Clarity

Entrepreneurial Quote of the Day:

“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do.  So throw off the bowlines.  Sail away from the safe harbor.  Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore.  Dream.  Discover.” ~ Mark Twain

Hello Fabulous Women!

I know it sounds trite but I’m saying it anyway – I cannot believe this year is almost over!  In less than two weeks it will be 2010. 

In the new year to come, many things will happen, including, for me, my 25th college reunion at Harvard.  This has me reflecting and wondering if my life has turned out anything like what I thought it would be, way back then when I was graduating from college.

When I asked myself that, the thing that struck me was that, at that age, I never really did think this far ahead.  I didn’t even think five years ahead.  Other than knowing that I wanted to be happily married with children – which is exactly what happened – I realize that I had no other clear plans or goals for my life this far out in the future.

I invite each of you look back over the past 25 years or so as well, and ask yourself the same questions.  What, if anything, were you absolutely clear that you wanted to have or do in your life?  And what happened?

I would be willing to bet that those things you were clear that you wanted are the things that happened.

Some of you were sure from an early age that you wanted to follow a particular career, and that is most likely exactly how it went.  I had no such clarity about my work life, and so I have been on a (mostly) delightful journey in that realm, from working with inner city adolescents to owning and driving for a cab company on Maui, to becoming a massage therapist, to being director of a wellness center, to sales, to being a life and business coach.  About the only thing I was always clear about in my work life was that I wanted to help people and make a difference, and so that has been the common thread.

My point – and I do have one! – is that clarity, our own internal clarity, is what truly determines our lives. 

So if there is an area in your life or my life where things aren’t going our way, consider that what’s missing is clarity about what we truly want.  Consider that those areas are the areas where we keep things a bit vague, where we avoid really knowing what’s happening, and most importantly, where we have never clearly defined for ourselves what we want in that area. 

If there is an area in your life that is not working out as well as you’d like, I’d be willing to bet that that is an area where you have settled for just knowing what you don’t want, but have never gotten crystal clear about what you do want.  Believe me, there’s a difference.  If there is one thing I have learned in this life, it’s that knowing what you don’t want will never get you what you want. 

I’m not talking about small things here, I’m truly talking about the very fabric and nature of our lives and how we create them.  We all have things we’d like to change about our lives, and we tend to focus on taking action as the way to make changes.  What I’m saying is that while action is critical, it is clarity, or lack of it, that determines those actions, and ultimately determines the course and the experience of our lives.

So here is my challenge for the coming year – the coming years! – for all of us.  Choose an area of your life that is not going the way you want.  Choose it, and then create it.  Sit yourself down and write what you want, what matters to you, what you want to do, what you want to be feeling, how you want to be in that area.  Talk to the people in your life about it, tell them what you want, share how you feel about it and listen to their experiences and connect with them on a new level.  Declare that this area, whether it is relationships or work life or family or money or creative expression or anything else you want to change, is now your focus and you are taking it on. 

Create clarity, and more clarity, and more clarity, in that area, and see what opportunities for action and movement and passion and achievement in that area start to open up for you.

Clarity is where the fun happens, it’s where life is juicy and challenging and fulfilling.  Lack of clarity is the grind, it’s where life is daunting and overwhelming and helpless and resigned. 

I know which I want more of in my life.  How about you?

–Ann

On Track and On Purpose, Business Coaching for Women Entrepreneurs, Business Woman Coach

The Power of Purpose

Entrepreneurial Quotes of the Day:

“Outstanding people have one thing in common: an absolute sense of mission.” ~Zig Ziglar

“What mankind wants is not talent; it is purpose.” ~Edward G. Bulwer-Lytton 

Hello Fabulous Women!

I am passionate and committed about the value and power of coaching, and here’s why.

One of the most common things I hear from the women who contact me about my business coaching services is that they are suffering from a lack of clarity.  And I do mean suffering – I can hear it in their voices. 

They say, “I just wish I knew what I really wanted.” 

And to make matters worse, they are usually blaming themselves for not knowing what they want – there’s this feeling that they are supposed to know what they want, and so they think there must be something wrong with them if they don’t.  (There isn’t!)

Interestingly, sometimes even those women who tell me they do know what they want are not truly any more clear.  I know that because, when I probe a bit further with them, they often can’t give me any clear details about what they want.  They say that they want more money, more success, less stress, but they can’t create a clear picture of what that would look like or what it means to them.

I strongly believe that this lack of clarity is the biggest obstacle in most people’s lives, including their business lives.  It’s the “something missing” that would make all the difference in the world if it were present.

I also believe that what creates clarity, and the only thing that creates clarity on a lasting basis, is Purpose.  Having a strong sense of personal purpose, knowing not only what you want but why you want it, feeling connected to what matters to you the most in life – that creates a clarity and power that can withstand anything that life throws at you.

Sometimes when I talk about this with prospective clients, it resonates with them immediately.  They seem to recognize that what I’m talking about is truly what has been missing for them.  Others, frankly, shy away from the idea of having a personal sense of purpose.  They say that there must be some other, better, easier way to get clear and know what they really want.

Maybe they are right, but if so, I have yet to see the evidence of it.  Everything I have experienced as a coach and in my life tells me that there is nothing more essential and foundational to having a fulfilling and successful life than having a strong sense of purpose.  It’s a declaration to yourself and to the world of why you are here on this planet. 

That is why my coaching – yes, my business coaching – involves helping each and every client create and declare a powerful and succinct personal statement of purpose.  And I promise you this: any business you create or career you pursue that is created out of that sense of personal purpose will be a business or career that will give you not only success but also joy and fulfillment in your life. 

I created my own statement of purpose nearly three years ago.  My purpose in life is to inspire and empower people to discover and fulfill their purpose in life, with passion, ease and joy! 

Now let me tell you something else:  I created that statement of purpose approximately 30 seconds before I declared that I was a coach.  After thinking about being a coach for years, that clarity of purpose is what gave me the power to declare it and make it so. 

And that clarity of purpose is the same reason why I had my first three coaching clients in less than a month after that declaration.  Nothing else changed.  I didn’t suddenly have more training or preparation, I didn’t know anything more than before.  The only difference was, I created and declared my purpose, and that transformed me from someone who was stuck thinking about something – for years – into someone who was unstoppable in making it happen.

And here’s something else for you to know.  Less than nine months later, if you typed “women’s business coach” into Google, you would have found me on the first page, at the #9 spot.  Not too shabby!  Today, by the way, I’m at #1 on Google for those keywords, and have been for over a year.  That’s the Power of Purpose, in life and in business.

So my question for each of you today is, What Is Your Purpose?  Why are you here?  No one else in the world has the right to declare an answer to that question except you.  How will you answer it?

I know that some of you have an answer to that question, because I was working with you when you created it!  Others may have a partial answer, and some may feel that they have no idea at all. 

If you, like many women I talk to, are feeling that painful lack of clarity, I hope that this has helped you to see what is missing, and to know that do you have it in your power to create it for yourself. 

If I can do it, so can you.  You can create it for yourself, but it doesn’t have to be by yourself – I know I couldn’t have created my purpose on my own.  It took someone really pushing me and coaching me, believe me!  That’s what coaching provides, and that is literally what I am here on this planet to do.  For you.

If you are feeling that “something’s missing,” then take on answering this question, “What Is My Purpose?”  Whether you do it through coaching or not, consider that your life does depend on it.  Not your existence – after all, many people exist for many years without ever knowing their purpose.  Having a life is much more than having an existence

And if you have ever thought about coaching but never taken action, make today the day.  Take advantage of my free 45 minute coaching call.  When you really think about it, isn’t it a bit absurd to spend a lifetime here on this earth and never declare for yourself why?

Have a fabulous, purposeful day,

–Ann

On Track and On Purpose, Business Coaching for Women Entrepreneurs, Business Woman Coach